WHEN an architect desires to erect a skyscraper he/she keenly understands its foundation must be sturdy. Likewise, if one wishes to be a master persuader of others – AND of themselves - they first need to envelop themselves, learn, and understand the basics of persuasion, Persuasion101.com
SO MANY of us are forever, or the majority of times, on a quest for “the magic wand,” or some other highly sophisticated tool to influence. Years, time, even gobs of money are spent trekking for this precious cache of knowledge. Little do these seekers know the answer, all this time, is with them and in front of them.
AND SO what is this precious gem of knowledge, so coveted, seemingly so simple, yet highly sophisticated that it goes unnoticed by the vast majority of people? Here it is: making someone and yourself feel wonderful; drench that person and yourself in good feelings.
HERE IS one way to go about doing so.
BEING THOUGHTFUL. Being thoughtful by, saying “ ‘thank you.’ Or that ‘I appreciate’ “x.” [x=moments] “Huh?” You say (probably with bad tonality) Being thoughtful by saying thank you, that you appreciate “x” only costs the amount of energy you use to say what you want to say. And is that too much time, energy, and money to spend? I think not.
FOR EXAMPLE, take this simple scenario: your significant other makes you a cup of coffee. Instead of saying “thanks” and using bad tonality while saying it, how about saying, “Wow. Thank you so much for making me this cup of coffee. I appreciate it.” AND say it with feeling behind it. People aren’t stupid, er, well, the majority of people aren’t. Most people have a genetically built in BS detector. They can sense when emotions and/or thoughts are insincere.
Take ANOTHER EXAMPLE. If you are a parent wanting to make your offspring feel good about him/herself using a basic tenet of persuaion101.com you can: one, remember times when he/she did something that you appreciated, that you thought was special. And two, look at your offspring and say, “thank you for xyz; I appreciate those times when you (ie helped me around the house, took care of your sister/brother, worked so hard on your school project and did well on your school grades. It makes me feel good. Thank you”
THE KEY is to - find priceless, simple, yet, sincere moments and just relay them back to the person in front of you, layering in the words, “thank you, I appreciate.” By finding these moments and doing the above you are being thoughtful to someone else. And isn’t it nice to know you can have a profound positive influence on someone’s life – and on your life.
THIS MIND IMPLODING revolutionary idea, a foundation in the art, science and skill of Persuasion101.com is not just for your personal life.
AT YOUR JOB, whether you are an employer, employee, this simple technique can propel moral and productivity.
And remember to communicate it with good tonality.
NOW, I GAVE several examples of using this technique on others. YES! It too can be used on yourself! Far too many people are mean to themselves, denying themselves simple pleasures; way too many people aren’t giving themselves a “thank you” for a personal moment. Ok, so your name is (whatever you choose to put in these quotes). How about saying to yourself, “ ‘name,’ I did good. I got the promotion I had fears and doubts but I persisted, worked really and now I have it. Yeah, I did great.” Or, “ ‘name,’ I raised a family and my children are doing great.” Or, “ ‘name,’ a dream of mine was to go to Barcelona. I finally achieved that dream. I did great. Because I set a goal and accomplished it.” I can go on and on, but you get the idea?
PS
VALENTINES DAY is here. How about YOU - find those simple yet thoughtful
moments in your significant other, and relay them back with the sweetest
of tonalities – putting a smile on their face - and yours?!
I am not asking you to go out and give a material/tangible gift to someone (give those to me). Just give an immaterial/ intangible, yet tangible only to the soul, psyche - to someone. They’ll appreciate.
AND SO, to recap, a cornerstone of Persuasion101.com is to make someone and yourself crackle, sparkle with good feelings by being thoughtful, relaying back special moments. This will put a smile on both faces. Also, it can fatten your bank account.
© John
G. Johnson 2004 - All rights reserved!
Links of Interest
Here are two links with a variety of articles of great interest. Go read 'em and have fun learning:
http://officecoach.msn.com/coach.aspx